7 Scary Things Teacher Should Say To Students
by Guy E. White on 9 October, 2014
What do students need to hear to grow and thrive?
Students are human beings and require the same emotional food as everyone else. Sometimes, even the simplest of gestures of kindness can mean the world to students, and be the keys to an amazing transformation. Make these seven gestures.
My photographic memory is a bit of a gift and a curse – especially when there are emotions attached. I remember the first time that I was impatient with a student and they walked out of my classroom as a result – and never came back. I remember the first time that I misunderstood a student and raised my voice out of place: it took a year to repair that relationship. Each of these were pivotal moments for me as a developing teacher.
Here are seven things that I think every teacher should make a point of saying to his or her students. They are scary to say. Do you dare?
1. I believe in you.
School is high stakes for students. Their futures are on the line. Tell them that you believe that they can make it. If you don’t believe that, then it’s time to retire.
2. I know you can do this.
Students doubt themselves more than anyone. They need you to be a coach that believes that their success is possible – even when they don’t think so.
3. You’re really good at…
Students need to be noticed. They need to know that you see them as an individual person with unique strengths. Tell them what you see.
4. I noticed you…
Tell them when they do something of note. Even if they arrive to class 1 minute less late than the day before, praise that improvement.
5. I know you; your name is…
It’s hard to believe that many teachers don’t know the names of their students. Call on students by their name. Ask them questions the same way. Tell them that they are known.
6. It’s hard for me when you don’t do your best.
Regardless of “how” it is hard for you when they don’t do their best, tell them that something is at stake for you in their success. If they fail, you lose too. This highlights that you both have a common goal: for them to do well.
7. Sorry.
One of the marks of a great human - and a great teacher - is to admit when you’ve failed. Students need emotional role models. Show them heart.
What do you think? What are some things that we should add to this list? What do you say to your students?
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